Audio Materials
Chapter 1 - Building Character
How does your personality stack up in terms of these factors?
You can take a free test by going to https://www.truity.com/test/big-five-personality-test
It takes 5 to 10 minutes.
Are you primarily extroverted or introverted? There are several tests you can take. One of these is short and free at https://www.introvertdear.com
You can take the ACE quiz by going to:
Chapter 9 - Relationships With Others
A few years ago, the New York Times published a list of 13 questions to ask before getting
married.
The questions can be reviewed here:
Chapter 10 - Leadership and Management
"Six Habits of Extraordinary Bosses," by Geoffrey James
https://business.time.com/2012/09/27/6-habits-of-extraordinary-bosses/
“The 8 Core Beliefs of Extraordinary Bosses,” by Geoffrey James
https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/8-core-beliefs-of-ex-traordinary-bosses.html
"10 Thoughts about Leadership," by Jon Gordon
https://jongordon.com/positive-tip-leadership-thoughts.html
Chapter 14 - Gaining Wisdom
All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, by Robert Fulghum
https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2399046-all-i-really-need-to-know-i-learned-in-kindergarten
What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20, by Tina Seelig
https://www.elise.com/blog/tina_seelig_what_i_wish_knew_when_i_was_20
"The 25 Principles for Adult Behavior," by John Perry Barlow
https://www.mickeyhart.net/news/the-25-principles-for-adult-behavior-by-john-perry-barlow-25395
Diagrams
Chapter 3 -Managing Ourselves
Be
Do
Think
Inward Contemplative
Active, Accomplishing goals, managing and leading
Feel
Receptive, open
Outward, taking others into consideration
Chapter 8 - Purpose and Meaning
Urgent
Not Urgent
Important
Quadrant 1 Do
Quadrant 2 Schedule
Not Important
Quadrant 3 Delegate
Quadrant 4 Delete
Chapter 9 - Relationships With Others
Relationships High
Low Outcomes
High Outcomes
Accommodate
Collaborate
Relationships Low
Avoid
Complete
Debate
* Assumes there is a correct answer, and i have it
* Is combative; participants attempt to prove the other side wrong
* Is about winning
* Entails listening to find flaws and make
counterarguments
* Is about seeking a conclusion or vote that ratifies my position
Dialogue
* Assumes that many people have pieces of the answer and together they can craft a solution
* Is collaborative; participants work together toward a common understanding
* Is about exploring the common good
* Entails listening to understand and find meaning and agreement
* Is about discovering
new options
Chapter 10 - Leadership and Management
Level
Focus
Key Principle
1. Personal
Self
Trustworthiness
2. Interpersonal
People
Trust
3. Managerial
Style, skills
Empowerment
4. Organizational
Shared vision and principles, structure, system, strategy
Alignment
Acronyms
Chapter 1 - Building Character
LOSS is a learning opportunity:
L—Learning
O—Opportunity
S—Stay
S—Strong
Chapter 5 - Emotions
ATTUNE:
A—Awareness of your partners emotions
T—Turning toward the emotion
T—Tolerance for two different viewpoints
U—trying to Understand your partner
N—giving Nondefensive responses
E—responding with Empathy
Chapter 9 - Relationships With Others
TRICK to sum them up:
T—Trust
R—Respect
I—Independence
C—Collaboration
K—Kindness
Before we speak, it's wise to THINK about the following
questions:
T—Is it True?
H—Is it Helpful?
I—Is it Inspiring?
N—Is it Necessary?
K—Is it Kind?